We have approached the ‘most wonderful time of the year’, Christmas trees are up, the shops are sparkling with baubles and tinsel, traffic is built up everywhere and the children are getting all giddy with excitement about Christmas presents! Sound familiar? Or maybe not…
Christmas can bring up all sorts of issues for people, such as family feuds and tension between family members which have been going on for many years. On an individual level Christmas can place a lot of pressure on us having the ‘perfect’ Christmas; does it exist? Who says we have to be cheery and happy during the festive season? Who says we must all get on with the family because it’s Christmas? I am starting to wonder where these expectations come from.
I don’t want to put a downer on Christmas as it is one of my favourite times of the year; however I wonder what it would be like to let go of some of the expectation we hold of Christmas? What would it be like if we did not do what was expected of us over Christmas? What if we decided to have the kind of Christmas we would really like? Some may argue it’s the one time all should be grateful and happy, but I am not sure what that means?
Maybe the best place to start is what meaning does Christmas have for us? For some it is religious, or it’s a time to be with family and for others it may have very little significance. I am inviting you to think about your own meaning as too often expectations are placed on us to have a ‘perfect’ Christmas. What would it be like for us to break those patterns we get caught up in during Christmas? Maybe we decide not to go to Granny’s for Christmas this year, which has been expected of us for the past fifteen years, or perhaps you don’t want to make Christmas dinner again for the tenth year! What if we had our own unique Christmas without the pressures and expectation of others? Let’s make our own version of ‘the most wonderful time of the year’!
Wishing you all a Very Merry Christmas!